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RE: Put a fetish in my ask and I’ll tell you how I feel about it. How do you feel about very restrictive bondage? Also, I’m interested in your answers to the questions you asked me: Pony play, foot fetish and DLG…

(asked by kneelbegcrawl, who you should definitely follow)

Here we are, I’m finally, after ages and ages, answering the last part of this question.

I said in a post, ages and ages ago as well, that Sir and I don’t enjoy the concept of DLG play much, although our more constant dynamic (as opposed to during play) has many elements of DLG included.

As with pretty much any other fetish I’ve said I have a distaste for, I have no problem with anyone else practicing it. I have mentioned time and time again that I find incest play hot, and that I don’t have a problem with incest between consenting adults. I do have a problem with pedophilia, though. Not with infantilism or those who are attracted to the practitioners of it, or of those playing DLG or schoolgirl or anything else. I have a problem with depictions of DLG in writing or cinema where the character is not just playing at young, but is actually that age. This isn’t coming out of nowhere-
Recently, on the forum I mod, a story was posted about a literal minor and her biological father. I see that as predation, even if within the bounds of the story she was consenting. If an authority figure is soliciting a minor for sex, that is wrong to me. I’ll write a whole other post about that, though, as the story poster was off her rocker besides, not just ignorant of rules. I’m not saying DLG daddies or girls are, but this one… well… yeah.

I do not, anyway, find playing in those roles bad. I think that’s wonderful, and I can appreciate some of the cornerstones of DLG. I think roleplaying as an authority player (ie a teacher or a father) and a minor or possible minor (ie, a student or daughter) is awesome and fine and sure have fun. I’m just expressing, again, that depictions (outside of porn where the roles are obviously acted) of sexual assault and rape are bad. Again, I also like play rape, I just want to know, before viewing, that the people involved are consenting.

I know I’m going off on a hundred tangents. My point is, roleplay is great, but depictions of DLG better be depictions of adults.

In my old post, I mentioned that we were not at all turned on by DLG. But since our dynamic mimics it so much, and other kinds of play we enjoy (incest play, teacher/student, etc) are quite parallel to DLG, we did agree to try it out, recently. Just for a play session.

This is where things get a bit confusing to explain to those who haven’t been around a lot of people practicing ‘the lifestyle’, but I’ll summarize before I continue my story: My Sir will always be my Sir, and I’ll always be Kitten or Little One or Pet. In play, we might have other names, like during DLG I could call him Daddy. But that’s just for a play session, not for our lifestyle, titles, etc. Of course, it’s the other way around for some couples, they might be DLG all the time, with a full-time Daddy and girl- though they might sometimes do rape play or pet play or anything else in the bedroom. I guess it’s the same as how just bedroom BDSM people are ‘normal’ most of the time, then do bondage or whatever in bed sometimes, except it’s from one kind of BDSM to another.

That was a long summary.

Anyway, we played, I called him daddy, and we being inexperienced in DLG tried out themes in verbal play we’d heard from 24/7 DLG couples, but in the end, it still wasn’t for us, not even as an occasional bedroom thing. It might happen again, but there you go, for now.

I’m sure I’ve missed something, or worded something else in an offensive way, but I did my best. Also check the post I linked for more about our dynamic and view of Daddy/girl.

Here are links to all the things I’ve answered as of May 1st 2012

Incest Play
Pony Play
Extreme Bondage
Foot Fetish
Age Play/Age Gap
Daddy/girl Play