has anyone posted this yet? I love it!
This was perfect
I just found your blog and i just want to say that the last questions about the rubber bands and everything really sounds like it's bordering on rape
Well allow Me to educate you then. :)
These chains are the same chains that My wife and I have both used for years.
We both do things that make each other squirm while the other is locked in them.
However, We both also have a safe word, and when/if that word is used, everything stops.
We also both have limits, things that We do not want to happen, and those limits are always respected.
We are also both exploring fantasies and kinks discussed before play has even started, in some cases, years before.
Everything is consensual, which is the difference between D/s play, and rape/abuse. Consent.
It’s clear that you ‘just’ found My blog because if you go reading through the archives you will find that My wife and I have a very healthy relationship.
It’s a big archive though, so I won’t fault you for not looking. ;-) I do hope though that this helps you understand the difference between a healthy BD/SM D/s relationship and rape/abuse.
In your experience, while your portfolio is professionally produced, are choice engagements still won or posed with accompanied fellatio?
Basically I prefer giving a cold fuck in the ass with my Tarzan. Head is so 90’s.
My portfolio is indeed professionally produced yet it is not accompanied by a fellatio of any sort.
My images are not won by giving head, fucking photographers or spreading my legs. You might be surprised as to how ‘boring’ most shoots are in terms of sex. I prefer a professional attitude and anyone not respecting that is not worthy to be in my portfolio.
But thank you for asking. It is nice to read people are concerned with photographers fellatio’s.
What a fuckwad.
i made a bingo card for my sex worker pals, because i know all of us have experienced AT LEAST one of these.
if you aren’t in a bad mood by the time you win bingo, you’re stronger than me.
Each time you get a bingo, (if you don’t do this already) splurge money on yourself. More than just stuff for your job, like if you’re an artist, buy some more supplies. A photographer? Buy a new lens or even a new camera. The list goes on,
this is literally the best idea thank you for this
Wax play is wonderful! It gives the opportunity to turn your sub or bottom into your personal canvas and form them into a work of art. Through out the span of a few posts, I will be giving you the lowdown on wax play and hopefully others will chime in with their personal experience and advice.
Your tools of choice:
There are several types of candles out there, but the safest to start off with is paraffin. According to a post by Norische on The Iron Gate, here are the other candle types and their melting points:
- Paraffin 120 – 145 degrees
- Low temp wax 120 – 125 degrees
- Standard jar candles 125 – 135 degrees
- Standard pillar candles 135 – 140 degrees
- Bee’s wax candles 140 – 155 degrees
- Oil based candles 165 – 190 degrees
- Gel jar candles 165 – 180 degrees
As mentioned above, paraffin’s melting point is at a safe range for beginners to start off with. Keep in mind that you’ll want to start off with a colorless wax just so you and your sub or bottom knows what it feels like. I’ll discuss this more in the next post in the series.
Colored waxes can increase the temperature of the wax slightly, especially if the wax is colored with paint and not dye. If you’d like to add some color and stay on the safe side, I’ve read that melting crayons with plain wax will do the job just fine and you can achieve this by using a crockpot.
Stay away from:
- Scented candles - Save your expensive Yankee Candles to put around your room to enjoy in other ways.
- Gel candles
- Metallic colored candles
- Wicks that are not string (cotton is normally used, I believe)
- Anything made from animal fat
- Painted candles
If you’re ever unsure of a candle’s make up, play it safe and don’t use it. You’re better off spending some money on candles that will make your experience pleasurable and not downright painful. There are plenty of adult sites (Edensfantasy, LoveHoney, etc.) that sells candles for sensation play and wax play, just be sure to read reviews before you purchase.
BDSMwaxplay by TenderDom
I made a mistake in my diagram that Daddy and a reader pointed out. Birthday candles are a gamble and depending on the kind you get, they can be unsafe. Many sources list them as unsafe, while some sources do list them as safe because they’re paraffin; however, it’s the paints that cause the biggest issue.
Is it just me or does it look like this guy isn’t really that tied up at all?
I mean it’s okay if that’s what feels great but he doesn’t look like he’s enjoying it. He probably needs someone who can tie better knots or something.
Well, it’s kind of like a rope corset, it could just be to look nice.
But that said it’s not too fancy and that rope looks itchy.
Good memories with Gorgone…